- The initiator usually writes first.
Makes sense, but when I first started seeking out new pen pals, I wasn't sure what was what. You want a pen pal, so you post on a site or do a #penpalswanted "ad" on Instagram (IG), and if someone reaches out, you send the first letter, unless they want to go first. I'm intrigued by ads I see on IG from people who are only interested in exchanging letters if the other party writes first. (Surprise (not): I ignore those.) - Protect your pal's privacy.
Obscuring our addresses
If you're planning to post pics of incoming or outgoing mail online, take a few moments to obscure your pal's full name and address. I often photograph outgoing mail before I address it (with sticky notes in place showing the recipient's initials). There are apps that allow you to apply digital stickers or blur out parts of images. You can also just lay physical objects over those parts of the envelopes. I've used gum packages, candy, pens...all kinds of things. - Goodies are a nice addition, but are not required.
Washi tape sample sharing cards - Remember it's voluntary.
If you're not "feeling it," you don't have to keep up a correspondence. I haven't had to back out of anything yet, but several people I've started writing to have never responded. I've never suspected that it was because I didn't send gifts with my first letter. I figured that my letter just didn't do it for them and have moved on. No hard feelings. - No proselytizing.
I haven't actually ever had this happen, but I've been assured that it does happen. Don't preach unless you've established that you're preaching to the proverbial choir. Surely you have more to talk about that whatever dogma you practice. - Protect your privacy.
Your mileage may vary. I may have a blog and several social media accounts, but I'm also quite private. I put my return mailing address on the back of envelopes and use a PO box, on the off chance that someone posts a picture of the reverse side. I also include one of these with the first letter I send to a new pal:Image-sharing Insert.
What's up this week? I have a new pen pal to write to and four letters to respond to. My pen is going to be very busy.
Upcoming topics: I know this is a brand-new blog and not likely to have readers for a while. If you have stopped by, thank you! I have several topics planned and feedback is welcome: pen pal organization - keeping track; grown-up merit badges; vintage stamps (ongoing, because I'm slightly addicted); finding pen pals; converting cheap fountain pens & testing fun inks; and more, but I'm drawing a blank.
Love that you started a blog! I used to find rubber stamping pen pals. Alas, my kiddo is taking all time up and no more of that stuff for a while. However, we all love getting mail that isn't a bill or an ad from Comcast!!! <3
ReplyDeleteFound your blog via the IGGPPC. This is a great overview. I'm always unsure on whether to write first or not.
ReplyDeleteI've had a few penpals write once and then never again, which is fine with me. I presume they just didn't feel like we "clicked" for whatever reason. What I hate is when you've been writing to someone for a while then they just stop with no explanation!
I hear you! I'm still fairly new to this, so I'm not sure how long to wait before deciding that a longer term pen pal is probably not writing back.
DeleteThanks for dropping by!